Do you ever feel like you are just not going to be the success that you desire so much?

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Permalink Reply by Christine Prevost on February 12, 2010 at 4:04pm

Hi Shanah, I think a lot of it comes down to past conditioning. It's that little chatterbox that says 'what do you think you're doing'....but I agree with Darline, you have to keep going, find a mentor, never give up if you have a goal. Its persistence and determination that get us there, and on those days when you feel down, be kind to yourself. Its difficult if you are a single Mum, trying to do everything, or you have a partner that is not supportive of what you are doing. I left my job in July to work from home in a business that hasn't given me the results. But that lead to another business which I love and I know will be successful. But I know it will take a few years of hard work to build it up. Luckily I have mentors and team encouragment and that makes a difference. When I feel overwhelmed, then I listen to Paul McKenna's CD 'How to change your life in 7 days' and I ALWAYS feel up after it. Or read a personal development book - that always helps too. I also believe you 'are' your thoughts, and you get more of what you focus on!
You deserve success, so focus on your goal and the universe will shift to give it to you.
Best Wishes
Christine

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Permalink Reply by Shanah S on February 12, 2010 at 5:54pm

Thanks so much Christine. I am so focused on my goals these days that I find it difficult to even get here much to stay in touch. I wish you much success with your new business.

Christine Prevost said:

Hi Shanah, I think a lot of it comes down to past conditioning. It's that little chatterbox that says 'what do you think you're doing'....but I agree with Darline, you have to keep going, find a mentor, never give up if you have a goal. Its persistence and determination that get us there, and on those days when you feel down, be kind to yourself. Its difficult if you are a single Mum, trying to do everything, or you have a partner that is not supportive of what you are doing. I left my job in July to work from home in a business that hasn't given me the results. But that lead to another business which I love and I know will be successful. But I know it will take a few years of hard work to build it up. Luckily I have mentors and team encouragment and that makes a difference. When I feel overwhelmed, then I listen to Paul McKenna's CD 'How to change your life in 7 days' and I ALWAYS feel up after it. Or read a personal development book - that always helps too. I also believe you 'are' your thoughts, and you get more of what you focus on!
You deserve success, so focus on your goal and the universe will shift to give it to you.
Best Wishes
Christine

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Permalink Reply by Shanah S on February 13, 2010 at 12:27pm

Thanks for sharing. If you are happy doing what you do, you willl find a way to make $100 feel like a $MILLION, or so I am told. I'm enjoying all this feedback indeed. I want to pat you on the back for believing in yourself, and being that inspiration for your children. Great job, mom!

La Donna Legg said:

I was JUST having a discussion with my fiance yesterday. I am at home with my 14 month old, yet I do still work from home, along with being a founder of a non-profit plus a coach for my 13 YOA daughter volleyball team and my 11 YOA son baseball team. I don't have a college education yet I have made $60,000.00 for 4 years (13 years ago 911 dispatcher). Then I was married to my ex husband and only had one child at home in which I worked at night for the last 2 years. I become a stay at home mom then for about a year and started to sell candles which I was great at. My Ex hated that I was away at night yet still wanted to have the extra $40,000.00 I made for 3 years(support his hunting and off road racing). He was abusive and controlling and me working was my way of taking small steps to getting my self worth strong. I was forced to find something else that made decent money yet only kept me away from the family for a little bit. So I found a waitress job and it was at a 24 hour restaurant. So I would go to work after kids and EVEN EX husband slept and be back in time to fix breakfast. That was the breaking point and my strongest moment. I DIVORCED THE EX! It was me and 2 young children against the world. No "college education" was my brand across my forehead as I applied for jobs and jobs that were in my skill level and had insurance to cover my kids. So I continued to waitress and apply all over. I finally had a job at an insurance company which I typed notes from adjuster claims and handled calls from claimers. I had to move so I got a job at a call center which had unlimited over time(where was this place when I divorced my EX ;-)). So when my kids were visiting my ex then I would work overtime and when they slept at night. I did that for several years and made almost $60,000.00 again. SOOOO exciting time of my life. I felt successful cause I had no money issues and no debt. Then the company cut back on the unlimited overtime and I thought that I would do better working for an attorney(who offered no benefits for the 1st year and paid minimum wage). So I quit and used my savings to cover medical expenses(my son was sick a lot). 3 years later still no benefits or raise from the attorney and I started to look other places. I have cleaning OCD and I was offered a construction clean up job on a house for $35.00 an hour. So that became my side job for several months until my savings was built back up and I said goodbye to the attorney. Her parting comment was she hired me cause she felt sorry for me and was glad that I was leaving cause I had "no college education to force her to give me a raise.) Soon the physical toll became too much for me(I was doing about 8 houses in one weekend by myself so I would not have any sitter costs or be away from my kids for very long). Now I am working from home(most moms want) only my income is $10,000.00. No babysitting costs(someone else teaching my children foundations of life, commuting, meals for work, work attire, so that make most days worth it. My kids have been with me every step of the way. They have heard for years of my EX bashing me on my work history and when my times are lean. My kids know that I will chose their needs over my own. They get the little extra's(food at McDonald, treat Thursday, Movie Monday). They see my strength, my weakness(them) and my success cause I have NEVER been on WELFARE(there for those that need it and I NEVER thought I needed it yet maybe I did). Shanah, your kids will see your confidence as long as you stay true to yourself. My daughter will tell you I am one of the strongest people that she knows and you ask her why and she'll tell you it's cause my mom walks with her back straight and forward. I found that out from the counselor. That was the 3rd time I cried this past year(1st when my Boyfriend became my fiance after 4 years, 2nd when birth of my 3rd child). I figured a long time ago with my mother was that she gave my foundation and it was up to me on what kind of house I built on it. IT WAS BEEN REMODELED SEVERAL times yet I have never used drugs, jail, stolen or state assist. It's her lost if she is not proud of me. I can't tell you if she is or give you any wisdom there. She decided after 35 years of marriage and raising kids to saddle up and move forward to drown herself in meds to deal with the "world". Sad to me that I have this woman that is NOT the mother that I grew up with that created my strong foundation even though I am not building the house that SHE wanted. Shanah, you say that you want to improve your credit. I word of advice is to start small. Start with your smallest bill and pay what you can. I paid my attorney bill for several months $5.00 a month cause that's all I had yet I made a payment which reflected on my credit report which is better than NOT making any sort of payment. Then you take that money when that bill is paid off and go on to the next one. Sounds like you have the will, and the way will come. Surround yourself with people that support you. IT is important and it's tough yet you'll look back and see the dead weight people and wonder WHY you wasted time with them.
WOW so long and I hope it helps!

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Permalink Reply by Michelle Evans on May 12, 2010 at 8:26am

Hi Shanah,

You need to find something that you are passionate about and that will provide you with a great support system. Once you find the right thing you will be unstoppable. Whether that be working for somebody else or maybe you should think about finding an opportunity that will allow you to be your own boss. There are lots of scams out there but there are also some very solid business opportunities. You just have to make sure you investigate them.

I never thought I'd have the chance to be my own boss, but a friend introduced me to a business opportunity just at the right time last year when I was open to looking at alternatives. I'm so glad she did. I'm now working towards achieving my goals. In order to achieve my goals I have to help other people achieve their goals. It's the most rewarding 'job' I've ever had! My new mantra is "if it's going to be, it's up to me!".

Best wishes.

Michelle

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