Being True to Your Own Heart

Dear beautiful friends,
The only constant in life is change. By surrendering to it, life becomes easy. The struggle is over. I am sending you my latest project entitled Dance With Nature. Please watch it till the end. It's a short video with a beautiful message at the end for all of you.



I also gave you just the beginning of my newest blog. The whole thing is on my webpage www.EstherAdler.com. Please read the whole thing so you can better understand it. It's extremely powerful and relevant to what's going on today. I would love your thoughts on the subject.



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They say one of the worst things a parent can experience is the loss of their child. This phrase usually refers to a death. What if a parent loses a child because the child has lost the desire to have a relationship? This kind of grief is compounded by rejection, loss of identity and purpose.
There are many reasons why a child would lose interest for the parent. Examples are long term relationship issues with parent/child, embarrassment toward the parent, issues with the child’s friends, and divorce leading to alienation of the parent. Alienation of a parent has become a tremendous crisis. With so many divorces today leaving many feeling alone, rejected, angry and vengeful the parent at times chooses to use the children as a tool to create as much pain toward the other parent as possible. This is due to the fact that the pain of the said parent is so great that he or she feels a loss on how to heal. Our ego wants us to be vengeful and hurtful. It convinces us that it’s the only way the pain will stop. Unfortunately the pain only increases, creating a desire to induce more pain.
There are no victims and villains. It’s important to understand this. There are just those that are controlled by the ego and those that tune into their higher self, their intuition, their spirit or any name you want to put to the feeling that stems from pure love and truth. So my question again is how can a parent heal from the loss of a child that doesn’t want them? Is this possible? I say yes!
I am talking from first hand experience of this. I was what you would classify a typical active and supportive mother to my four children. I was a young mother of 19 when I had my first but grew up quickly and took on the role full on. I home-schooled my children for two years, took them on vacations, museums, plays, play dates, made birthday parties and did all the normal stuff that mothers do with their children. I cherished every moment I had with them and enjoyed sharing my passion for the world.
During my separation the alienation began. I did not see it right away but as time went on I began to fully understand what was going on. (I go into full detail in my book of the steps I began to see to the process.) As their mother I began to resist what was going on and screamed, kicked and cried to put a stop to the loss of interest of my children.
My former husband painstakingly tried every method to physically remove the children from my life including court motions, threats and other tactics. While this was going on, the time my children spent with me was becoming more and more unbearable for everyone at hand. It was frightening to even return home from work.